Memories, forgetfulness and dementia

Last week I was sitting in the waiting room at my foot doctor\’s when I saw old friends, Bill and Bev. I haven\’t seen them in years – they were among the first set of friends we made after moving here. 

I said hi to Bill and he was so happy to see me – a little too happy in that I could tell he was overcompensating for his bad memory. I talked with Bev and it\’s more than a bad memory – he is in full dementia. She said he knows how to \”fake it\” well. He was in there because he is imaging foot pain that he doesn\’t have – it\’s part of his dementia. 

Wow, it really bothered me. I\’ve noticed a good friend of mine who I left behind in the bay area and when we\’ve talked on the phone, she doesn\’t remember many of our shared memories. I can be forgetful – and sometimes I am taken off guard by something that seems blank to me, but I usually remember. But she has no such memory to glean from. She had cancer and was on Chemo so I am thinking that might have contributed to her memory loss. 

I know there have been times, my boys will talk about something from their memories and I don\’t remember it. I feel bad about that, like what kind of mom forgets these memories? Usually, their memories are from their point of view – not mine. 

Then there are those memories you never forget. Like when my son, Michael died. However, the days and weeks after his death,  I have memory blackouts.  Movies or important news that happened in 2003 – I don\’t remember. It\’s like that whole year is a blank. Stress and trauma will do that to you. 

Lately, I take my eyeglasses off to read and then I forget where I put them. Sometimes I place them on my lap – I forget, get up and they fall to the floor. Thank God I haven\’t stepped on them yet!  So I think I need those eyeglasses necklace chains. All because of my forgetfulness. 

Aren\’t they adorable! 

6 thoughts on “Memories, forgetfulness and dementia

  1. Anonymous May 25, 2021 / 11:31 pm

    WhenI can't find my glasses the first place I check is the top of my head. If I don't put things like keys always in the same place I am in trouble.

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  2. Anonymous May 25, 2021 / 11:46 pm

    Dementia and memory loss is sad, and some people really do cover well. You really made me laugh at the end though and those babies are adorable!

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  3. Anonymous May 26, 2021 / 12:13 am

    I'm careful with my health in fear of dementia. It happens to the nicest people. I understand your contemplation a little too well. I also have little memory from difficult times in my life. I guess it is a coping mechanism. What is embarrassing is I really don't remember most of the students I taught. They have all blended together.

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  4. Anonymous May 26, 2021 / 4:01 pm

    The kids are so cute! They are adorable. My memory is getting bad too but I think I'm not trying. Or it could be the stress and such from all the hysteria. It's scarin' the horses. *giggle* God is good, though, and I still feel like we're being blessed daily.I hope your Van is fixed and all is going well for y'all.Blessings. xx

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  5. Anonymous May 26, 2021 / 5:56 pm

    I too worry about dementia, as hubs is very slowly going that way and sometimes I think I am following him.

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  6. Anonymous May 26, 2021 / 10:55 pm

    Dementia is horrible I watched mt Nan suffer from it and have an aunt who has it and towards the end my Dad also started to have it

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