Last week I was sitting in the waiting room at my foot doctor\’s when I saw old friends, Bill and Bev. I haven\’t seen them in years – they were among the first set of friends we made after moving here.
I said hi to Bill and he was so happy to see me – a little too happy in that I could tell he was overcompensating for his bad memory. I talked with Bev and it\’s more than a bad memory – he is in full dementia. She said he knows how to \”fake it\” well. He was in there because he is imaging foot pain that he doesn\’t have – it\’s part of his dementia.
Wow, it really bothered me. I\’ve noticed a good friend of mine who I left behind in the bay area and when we\’ve talked on the phone, she doesn\’t remember many of our shared memories. I can be forgetful – and sometimes I am taken off guard by something that seems blank to me, but I usually remember. But she has no such memory to glean from. She had cancer and was on Chemo so I am thinking that might have contributed to her memory loss.
I know there have been times, my boys will talk about something from their memories and I don\’t remember it. I feel bad about that, like what kind of mom forgets these memories? Usually, their memories are from their point of view – not mine.
Then there are those memories you never forget. Like when my son, Michael died. However, the days and weeks after his death, I have memory blackouts. Movies or important news that happened in 2003 – I don\’t remember. It\’s like that whole year is a blank. Stress and trauma will do that to you.
Lately, I take my eyeglasses off to read and then I forget where I put them. Sometimes I place them on my lap – I forget, get up and they fall to the floor. Thank God I haven\’t stepped on them yet! So I think I need those eyeglasses necklace chains. All because of my forgetfulness.
Aren\’t they adorable!