The last few days I have been feeling…different. Not my usual happy self. I feel sad.
I also feel that my husband retired too soon – because money is getting tighter, food and gas prices are going through the roof. He doesn\’t get it – he keeps spending as if he is not retired. I do not like to have to take money out of our savings account at the end of the month. Plus I found out today he has been hoarding his CalVet pension check in a separate account.
I pay all the bills and just trusted that he was depositing that check. When I went to the grocery and noticed how low we were, when usually we are not, it dawned on me that perhaps the check was never deposited in our account. Al last year I kept telling him to signup for direct deposit, which he has not. I asked him – he admitted it put it in a separate checking account that he has. That pisses me off.
This what my 1st husband did. He opened up his own account and deposited his paycheck in there. I paid everything out of my account – the house, the car payments, food, etc. He would occasionally treat for pizza. BIG DEAL. After other things went on, I decided I was paying for everything anyway – I might as well kick him to the curb, which I did. (there is much MORE to the story)
I get it that my husband wants his own money – Fortunately for him, I am not a big spender. I\’m a saver which he is not. We have saved for a new car so we can pay cash. He is biting at the bit for other reasons to use that money. I haven\’t added any money to that account in a couple of months and that bums me out. I\’ve never called my husband a Jerk before…but he is acting like a jerk if you ask me.
I would never open up an account and hoard money. Maybe I should… We\’ve never had arguments over money. When things got tight we worked together to get through it. I guess I will just not count his pension check in our monthly budget any longer and tighten up to where he will notice.
I have the power to do that!