I had assumed per the Sacramento Coroners\’ office that she had been released to her dad for cremation. That didn\’t happen. Nina\’s baby daddy, the common-law husband of almost 10 years who is from Somalia and a Sunni Muslim wouldn\’t allow her to be cremated. There was some arguing about it. Her CL husband won the argument and she was buried in an Islamic cemetery. The whole process was quick due to Islamic law that they must be buried within 12-24 hours. That didn\’t happen due to the autopsy and covid19. But as soon as she was released it happened within hours. Nina\’s step-dad called me and filled me in.
Here are some interesting facts:
The body must be cleaned at least three times, either by the spouse or a same-sex family member.
There is a particular order in which the body is cleansed. It begins with the upper right side, then the upper left side, lower right side, and ending with the lower left side. A woman’s hair is cleansed and put into three braids. Shrouding is completed using three white sheets. They are first spread out and stacked one upon the other. Then the body is placed on top of them. The left hand of the deceased is placed on the chest. The right hand is then placed on top of the left. The sheets are draped over the body one at a time. First the right side, then the left, until they are all wrapped around the body. A rope is tied at the top of the head and another below the feet. One or two ropes are tied around the middle of the body.
This is open for everyone to watch. Men and women typically sit separately. Traditionally the women sit at the back. An Imam (Islamic priest) or the oldest male family member stands at the front-facing Mecca, and the body is placed in front of him. With his back to the mourners, he presents the funeral prayer. A Muslim funeral is very quiet. After the prayers, the deceased is taken to the burial location, usually carried by male family members. Nina was in a simple cardboard-like coffin. After the funeral, the casket is taken to the burial site by four family men. The grave is dug parallel to Mecca. The body is placed lying on their right side, also toward Mecca.
The children did not attend. It was a very small attendance due to covid19.
So it is done and I searched and found the cemetery just outside Sacramento. No one will give me the information. I will call them Monday so I can visit her grave in the near future.
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