Another Day

6 months ago when we all were in the middle of the first lockdowns, I was bored and had a hard time figuring out what to post about. NOW, I wish for some quiet boredom with absolutely nothing going on. 
I guess things are starting to settle in – a nurse called us last night to say, that Pops was doing quite well. He is on pureed foods and thick liquids. For how long, we are not sure. We\’ve been asked, why we can\’t just pull him out and have him stay with us. Without going into detail – he can and has been difficult. Honestly, we can\’t handle him. Plus we would need an assistant to also live with us and we just don\’t have the room. So trust me – it\’s not like we wouldn\’t have wanted to have him with us – it\’s just that he required 24/7 care and he\’s not the easiest person to have around. His family in Wisconsin put him on a plane and sent him out to us some years ago because he hit one of the grandchildren with his cane. You just never know when he will go off. 
The California State Veterans Home here has a 5 out of 5 ratings. It is not a dump. It\’s new and for the most part, has been a blessing to us. It does go to show, however, that even highly rated places can have their issues, and with the Covid19 and the lockdowns, even the best places still need accountability that does not come from a Zoom call. 
Just a few minutes ago, I made my first phone call to the caseworker, for Nina\’s case. The Ombudsman told me to wait a couple of days since they are swamped. If I don\’t hear I go on to Person #2. I\’m trying not to get frantic about it – with Christmas coming. I get weepy when I walk past a toy display of baby dolls and hot wheel cars – I have good memories of gifting them. The Ombudsman told me that if they cannot find anybody for those children, they will find adoptive parents and it would be up to the parents to approve any contact with the kids. They would have the right, to not agree. Not much I can do about that. I don\’t have the money to fight this – I don\’t even know if we can fight it. Perhaps it would be best for them – to finally have a family. I doubt if we really could do this – there are income requirements and we\’re on a fixed income now. We\’d have to get jobs. We might even have to move because our house is too small. It would be a lot and this is supposed to be our \”Golden Years.\” We are torn. 
Some fun news – Navy and Sara are looking to buy a house. She sends me the listings – what a fun time for them. I read that covid19 has brought a real estate boom to our area. It\’s a seller\’s market. Houses go up and within a couple of days, they have sold and purchases OVER the original asking price. They have to act fast. I keep watching our home value going up and I sometimes dream, of selling out and moving somewhere I could buy outright – no mortgage. But we have family business here so that is just a pipe dream. 
I had my 2nd Shingle shot yesterday. It started off better than the first shot until the evening and then my arm hurt so bad, I could hardly sleep. I\’m okay if I take Tylenol every 8 hours. I\’m done with it now and don\’t have to think about Shingles, ever again. 
For fun: If you want to get your Facebook friends all worked up, post this on your page. 
9 out of 10, think it reads Vaccinations instead of Vacation. LOL. I guess I enjoy stirring the pot. 

From My House – For the homemaking side of me

8 thoughts on “Another Day

  1. Anonymous December 9, 2020 / 9:19 pm

    That meme is funny and I did read vaccinations to until I read your comment about it.


  2. Anonymous December 9, 2020 / 10:55 pm

    People who say you should have your father in law at home have no knowledge of the care he needs and the demands. I hate advice sometimes. I do pray for your grand niece and nephew. It would be a blessing if a nice couple adopted them and had the wisdom to include you in their lives. It's possible. Purchasing a home is always a good idea. Hurray for Navy and his wife.


  3. Anonymous December 10, 2020 / 12:23 am

    The same people also think we should be guardans over the children – We're in our 60's! I was hoping her cousin on her dad's side would pick up that slack – he's in his 40's and has 1 child. Yes anything is possible. I just have to be patient.


  4. Anonymous December 10, 2020 / 1:36 am

    I took care of my mother with dementia for several years -and had little kids at home-it was the worst time of my life-awful. I would not wish it on anyone-and people feel guilted into doing it when they shouldn't. I am praying that those kids can get adopted by a wonderful, loving family and still let you see them. Life is just full of hard choices, isn't it?I hope you have a blessed night- you are in my prayers. xo Diana


  5. Anonymous December 10, 2020 / 1:38 am

    I also read it as vaccinations! 💖


  6. Anonymous December 10, 2020 / 7:17 am

    I saw it as vaccinations, but it would be fine with me if some vaccinations were mandatory. Sorry about Pop and your terrible loss. Very few people can take care of an elderly person at home.Love,Janie


  7. Anonymous December 10, 2020 / 4:02 pm

    I understand the age thing. I have a developmentally delayed brother that lives with me and I do feel a HUGE concern about what would happen to him if something happened to me. Plus with young children, it helps to be younger to keep up with their demands.


  8. Anonymous December 10, 2020 / 11:20 pm

    I am 100% in favour of a vacation and vaccinations because we all need both


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