Nina as a child
Her children were taken by Child Protective Services on the 19th. They went back to the same Foster Family, that had them earlier in the year and will be there until they can figure this all out. I know, my niece approved of them so that is good. I contacted the CPS Ombudsman today and told them, that I want to be involved in the process if at all possible. While we are unable to raise children, I still want to keep up a relationship with them, as they grow older. Only I can share those precious memories of their Mom when she was a baby and a young person. The odds for that are almost impossible from what I am hearing. I will eventually lose touch with those little ones and that is killing me.
Nina\’s father is Shia and her baby daddy is Sunni from Somalia. His family came down from Seattle but CPS wouldn\’t let them leave the state with the children. There are basically 3 cultures/ involved plus there is the fact that the father of those children is a criminal. He is a big-time drug dealer and that is one major reason, why I was unable to go down there and spend time. The few times, we were there, the police were always knocking at their door, for something. Or, his \”business partners\” would be dropping by. I wanted to have a special relationship with her, but it was almost impossible. I wasn\’t allowed to send them Christmas gifts or cards – they didn\’t observe Christmas or any other American holidays.
Any and all information, as to what exactly happened is not forthcoming. I am a nobody. Nina\’s cousin, calls me his \”Aunt\” because he loved my sister and my sister helped raise him when he came here from Iran. He is my only connection and even he is limited because he and his uncle have not talked in years. Family dysfunction happens in all cultures.
I doubt I will be attending any funeral or memorial service. Nina\’s father is mad at my side of the family, blaming my mom and my sister for her death. (My mom died in 2008 and my sister died in 2015) He blames them for the drug addiction and says it comes from my side of the family. I don\’t need that kind of drama – It is a male-dominated culture, that I will be dealing with. I have my own issues with my mom and my sister – but I will be dammed if I would allow them to bash them in front of me.
I don\’t know if she died by suicide or an accidental overdose. I doubt if I will ever know and really, it doesn\’t really matter. She is gone. My beautiful little Nina is gone. Now I have to think of her little ones.
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