My sister-in-law called this morning – the hospital is releasing my brother. He has dementia and is on some medication that hopefully will make things better. I don\’t know all the details – my SIL was crying. I just listened. The rest of the family came in and took out all his guns and sharp knives. He apparently doesn\’t remember his violent episode. I\’m wrestling whether or not we should go back. With the issue with my lungs and covid19, I don\’t know. My husband said we could drive back. We have an older Dodge Sport Caravan – it runs great and the husband is positive we could get there and back. YOu know how I hate to leave my babies…(cat and dog) We\’ll wait and see how he settles in. We don\’t need our visit to make things worse for them all.
I\’m so bummed. He is only 70.
I didn\’t grow up with my brother. My dad was 16 and his mom was 15 and he grew up in Eastern Tennessee. I don\’t know the whole story only that, this was hidden from my sister and me until we were teenagers. I thought it was cool to have a brother. But that was it. Then when my mom died, I found all this communication from John\’s wife and family. So I had just got on Facebook – it was 2009 and I looked them up and found them and made contact! They were so happy to hear from me. I don\’t like to let things go, so I planned my trip to meet him and the rest of his huge family. It was awesome and he really is a lot like my dad. (only shorter) I just fell in love with him and his wife.
Since then, we keep up with each other – we just went back in 2018, and this time my husband came with me. She said something – that is true and it bothered me. \”I only wish you could have known him longer Well me, too! I get angry at my Mom mostly. She kept my Dad from him as well. But have found out since, that my dad did communicate with them on his own and even got away to visit them back when they were living in Tennessee and my mom knew nothing about it. They have photos to prove it. Good for you, Dad!
You just can\’t go back and try to figure these dysfunctional things out. I do know my Mom was just jealous and felt threatened – telling my dad, they were out for my dad\’s money, or they wanted to be in the will. Oh come on, it\’s not like my folks were rich or anything. And nothing could have been further from the truth. My brother and his family are the most genuine people I have ever met. Loving and have totally brought me into their family.
From My House – For the homemaking side of me